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From the Archives: November 1994

by Rodolpho Carrasco 09-20-2017
An Identity Crisis

THE MAJORITY of Generation X Latinos perceive that our faith sects (both Catholic and Protestant) have little to say about the issues that affect us most: technology-induced future shock, a national debt as frightening as a velociraptor, AIDS, and (perhaps most important) race and identity. What better way to explain the phenomenon of countless young Latinos leaving—in their own words, escaping—our religious institutions?

Love Glenn Beck as You Would Love Yourself

by Rodolpho Carrasco 03-16-2010
I haven't heard Glenn Beck's call to "run away" from churches that teach social justice.

Evangelicals, Global Relief, and 'the Sin of Sodom'

by Rodolpho Carrasco 03-01-2010
There's a remarkable article in Saturday's New York Times by Nicholas Kristof: Learning from the Sin of S

How I Responded to Public Racial Mockery

by Rodolpho Carrasco 12-10-2009
A while back, I was in a situation where I was mocked publicly in front of 300-plus young leaders. There were racial overtones.

When Better Becomes Worse

by Rodolpho Carrasco 09-01-1996
The struggles of abuse-survivors' spouses

When I showed a friend Haunted Marriage: Overcoming the Ghosts of Your Spouse's Childhood Abuse, he perused the book jacket and laughed, saying, "I guess everybody really is a victim." It was an insensitive comment, but one that is understandable, given our warped popular culture. It can be tiresome distinguishing which new categories of abuse and their associated healing strategies represent legitimate advancements, and which ones were crafted by the hacks behind Jerry Springer and Ricky Lake. But read Haunted Marriage and there is no doubt into which category this important book falls.

Authors Clark Barshinger, Lojan LaRowe, and Andres Tapia raise the specter of "spouses of sexual abuse survivors." Using Tapia's own marriage as a book-length case study, Barshinger and LaRowe—a husband-wife team of psychotherapists with 25 years of counseling experience—make the case that the abuse-surviving spouse isn't the only spouse in need of attention and healing.

In particular, Haunted Marriage makes clear that the abuse survivor's crisis often triggers a crisis for the spouse. Four years into their marriage, Tapia's wife Lori uncovered repressed memories of being sexually abused as a child. Hers was a painful and dark path of recovery. But not long after Lori began her process of recovery, Andres discovered great needs of his own:

In the same way that Lori projected onto me her unresolved feelings about her abuser, I was projecting onto her my unresolved feelings about my parents....As Lori and I tried to find each other in the haze of her healing process—and my growing realization of the process I needed to embark on for myself—we kept bumping into relational ghosts from our past.

A 21st-Century Identity Crisis

by Rodolpho Carrasco 11-01-1994

The majority of Generation X Latinos perceive that our faith sects (both Catholic and Protestant) have little to say about the issues that affect us most: technology-induced future shock, a nati