The Common Good
June 2013

Marital Wisdom

by The Editors | June 2013

Share your thoughts on what it takes to have a lasting marriage.

Photo by Roy Hsu

In “A Testimony of God’s Grace and Love,” from the June 2013 issue of Sojourners, Leroy Barber shares five principles for a lasting marriage.

What other advice would you add to this list? (Share your marital wisdom in the comments section below.)

  1. You can have a great marriage even if your parents did not. We often meet people who think because their parents’ marriage didn’t go well, that will be their experience. Both of our parents’ marriages ended, yet we committed to one another and have been able to stay together based on that commitment.
     
  2. In Christian marriage, mutual submission and care are needed. You are partners and friends; not “man” plus a woman to serve “man.”
     
  3. People change and so will your spouse. You have to commit to changes that will happen with your spouse. Spouses will change and grow, just as you will.
     
  4. Kids don’t make a marriage. Your children will leave, and marriages centered around children are soil for unhappiness. Do something to give your undivided love and attention to your spouse every week.
     
  5. Spend money on your marriage, the same way you save for the house, your kid’s college education, or a rainy day. Put money away to spend on or go away with your spouse.
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